The Three C’s of Relationships

Just about everybody wants to be accepted and liked by others, but it’s hard to please everyone. I’ve learned that there is a common set of traits that many people admire. This is why I’ve come up with “the three c’s” which have helped me in my relationship.

1. Confidence

Confidence is key to most things. It helps you get a job, meet new people, find that special somebody, and try new things. It may be tough for those who are more on the timid side like me, but everybody can be confident in some aspect of their life.

One of the first things you need to do is dress up and look decent. When we look good, we feel good. This also can apply to your state of mind. If you tell yourself that you are confident you will start to feel confident. It also helps to improve your posture. Just believe in yourself!

2. Commitment

Everybody loves a person who sticks to their word. Commitment is a very simple thing to improve if you learn how to say no to things you can’t stick with. Learn how to start doing things completely and not just backing out when they’re “good enough”.

This is extremely important in life as it will make you a more trustworthy and desirable person to others. This is one of the best character traits you can apply to yourself as it shows your significant other that you are serious about your relationship and you are ready to move forward.

3. Conscientious

This one goes hand in hand with commitment. The definition of conscientious is “wishing to do what is right, especially to do one’s work or duty well and thoroughly.” The point I’m going to make with conscientiousness is pretty self-explanatory. Many people want to do what is right, and they want others to do the same thing. They also want to be with somebody who is willing to put 110 percent into their relationship.

As you can see, these all make sense when applied to somebody’s relationship. If you can apply the three c’s to yourself and find the right person, your significant other will thank you.

Creativity and You

My life has been full of confusion about what I want to do with my future. I’m the kind of person who changes her mind very quickly, so when I try to be creative I’ll just be jumping back and forth between so many different ideas that are rushing through my brain. It seems like everybody else is able to be creative and I’ve just missed the creativity train by a few minutes. However, that’s not the case.

It can be frustrating when you aren’t able to come up with an original idea. It will feel like every idea in the world has been taken (and I know for a fact that there are thousands of blog posts out there like this one), but even if that’s true you can still put your own creative spin on things. Do you think there is one blog out there who uses the exact same logo as me? The same words in my posts? I doubt it.

That’s how I view creativity. If we can just get past the fact that it’s not so easy to come up with a creative idea, or that even if our creative idea has been done already we can still put our own spin on it, it will become a lot easier. I’m not saying that I’m an expert on being creative though. I still have dreams of opening an Etsy shop and making my own products with no idea of what I’d sell or making my own recipe. It’s all just a matter of grabbing that idea and holding onto it until it eventually forms into something that can be created.

Go ahead and start being creative. Nothing is stopping you!

Breaking Free From Your Past

Let’s face it. Just about everybody has overcome at least one hardship in the past. Some may be more recent than others, but time doesn’t always make coping easier for us. That’s why I’m going to share with you how I stopped just coping and started actually letting go (it’s way easier said than done by the way).

So let’s start getting into some deep stuff. My father and I never had the best relationship, and we’d constantly butt heads because we couldn’t see eye to eye. Eventually that headbutting became more– for lack of a better word– physical than it should’ve been. I would have panic attacks, he would get angry, I would become scared of going to see him, and when I did I had more panic attacks because of this and so on. I’ve also dealt with major health issues since I was young which caused my social life to be pretty crappy. Depression also played a huge role in my hardships, and after two suicide attempts, I got help.

As you can see I have dealt with quite a bit in my life. This actually brings me to my first word of advice.

No matter how many or how few hardships you have, you need to recognize that they’re still valid.

Mourning and healing from emotional trauma are natural for humans, as we’re social creatures. This healing process makes it easier for us to function in social situations. That’s why it’s important to realize that anything you’re going through is just as valid as what might be happening to somebody else. We don’t want to bottle those feelings away or they’ll eventually consume us. I’ve learned this from experience, and trust me, it’s not fun.

Give yourself enough time to process what you went through (but not too much time).

If you just sit in a pool of regret, disappointment, anger, sadness, or whatever emotion you’re experiencing it won’t get better. My idea of letting go is sitting in that pool for just the right amount of time. I can’t tell you when that time will come, but you’ll know when you’ve spent too much time in it. Take in that pool, figure out what it consists of, and learn how to best drain it during your time of grief.

I stayed in my pool for about two years too long. I allowed it to take over my life and make me a miserable, miserable person. I eventually realized that I needed to get myself out of that situation before I drowned, and I did that by helping others. Everybody will drain their pool differently, it’s just a matter of what helps you the most.

Celebrate whenever you make a small achievement.

This is extremely important! If you don’t give yourself a pat on the back when you decide to leave that pool, it’ll feel like it’s all for nothing. Keep reminding yourself why you’re doing this, how much better you’ll feel when it’s over, and how much it will improve your life. That will make coming out of your past so much easier.

I know this was a short post, but I hope it helps somebody like it helped me. All I recommend is that you find your coping mechanisms, and use them to your advantage!

 

 

A Perfect Start

Thanks for joining me on this wonderful journey! All of this started when I read a wonderful book by the author Bradley Charbonneau, Every Single Day: Daily Habits to Create Unstoppable Success, Achieve Goals Faster, and Unleash Your Extraordinary Potential. This book motivated me to start my blog.

I’ve always wanted to be a famous blogger, but it was always discouraging seeing all of these perfect blogs and wanting mine to be that in the very beginning. Everything was so overwhelming from pricing to finding the right pictures to coming up with an interesting post. As he mentions in his book, it’s all about taking that first tiny step. That’s what I did here today by starting with the free domain and being practically invisible to the world.

I believe that with hard work and determination everybody can stop wishing that they could do something and start doing it. For those of you who join me in the beginning, thank you!